How I Said F You to Fear and Started Finding My Confidence: The 5 Second Rule Review

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Oh man I don’t even know where to start with all of this. I’ve posted about Monat before because I was that person to joined a direct sales company thinking I was going to make a few blog posts and things were just going to explode and I was going to be making all this money selling something that I absolutely 100% love, but that’s not exactly what happened. I didn’t really sell much of anything at all actually and I wasn’t confident in myself enough to even mention this company and it’s products to people I know and thought could benefit (which is basically everyone by the way).

What if I’m bugging them?

What if they don’t want to be my friend anymore because I shared this shampoo with them?

What if I feel like I’m not good enough to sell this to them?

What if they unfollow me?

What if I’m not qualified to sell it even though I’ve had results?

What if people literally just don’t care about my product?

The “what if” list can go on forever, but every single what if on that list was a what if produced from fear. In hindsight it was a pretty freaking stupid list.

Why was I holding myself back? Did I really believe all that stuff? I don’t see all the successful Market Partners living in fear and destructive what ifs.

What if I didn’t buy into all those what ifs? But then I still didn’t really know how to change my way of thinking.

I kept coming back to this idea of working the Monat business, selling these product that I know are truly revolutionary in the hair care industry. I’d kind of explore it a tiny bit, maybe post to my Instagram stories, but I definitely wasn’t taking it serious. Not totally anyway.

In one of these moments where I came back around to it, I decided to actually sit in on one of those zoom calls you hear about in direct sales. What would it hurt? It was one for new Market Partners or Market Partners like me that came in, didn’t do anything, and now want in on this opportunity. This upline talked for just a second about Mel Robbin’s five second rule and something about that intrigued me and I couldn’t let it stop there. In a nutshell the rule is counting down from 5 when negativity or fear keeps us from acting on an instinct that we know is right or this the thing that will push us forward and then when we get to one, we move our bodies in the direction of doing the thing before all that fear finds time to settle in our brains and keep us from doing it.

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I googled it and came across Mel Robbins book called The 5 Second Rule and I decided what the hell, I’m just going to do this. The next day I stopped by my local Half Price Books. They were out of it. The employee offered to get it in for me, but it would take 10 days. I had a super vague idea of what the 5 second rule was and I thought, nope it’ll come and go before 10 days is up, so I drove a little further to Barnes and Noble and picked it up. Even my Amazon Prime 2 day free shipping wasn’t going to be fast enough for me on this one. It was now or never… or a lot later down the road anyway. I had to grab this moment before it was gone.

And to be honest, as much as I want to be at home with my kids, I’m tired of not pulling my weight financially in my family (not that I have to, but I want to), but I’m also really just not made for a traditional job. I know this opportunity can work. I know I can make as much and more than I made when I drove to a traditional job so why not put my head down and get after it.

Since starting and finishing The 5 Second Rule (technically I finished it yesterday), I’ve used the rule to quiet my negativity and push through moments of fear in order to share this thing I love with the people around me. It’s a little early to say if I’m going to be super successful in the business, but the point is that this rule has allowed me to get out of my own way and make progress towards a goal instead of just dreaming about it. I’ve made more sales in the last week than I did in the entire year and half prior. Even if it doesn’t add up to much, I’m pretty freaking proud of that. And you know what? So far only 3 of the people I’ve reached out to have ignored me and it turns out I’m actually okay with that. To me that says more about where they are with things and less about where I am with things. I’ve heard no, gotten some excuses, but more than anything people have been kind and received it well, even if now is not the time. I’m slowly working through the fear, but my confidence is already better than it was a couple weeks ago.

If fear and a lack of self confidence is holding you back from something you want personally or professionally, I’m recommending this book to you. It’s not like all those other personal development books you read. Have you ever noticed most of them are inspiration, but with no clear way to actually get out of your own way? It doesn’t make them bad by any means. I love some of those books and the message they send. The thing about The 5 Second Rule is that Mel gives you an actionable thing to do to change your behavior and that, my friend, is key.

So, if you do want to pick up this book from Amazon, I’d click the Buy on Amazon button over there and add it to your cart. Ready?

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