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How I Said F You to Fear and Started Finding My Confidence: The 5 Second Rule Review

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Oh man I don’t even know where to start with all of this. I’ve posted about Monat before because I was that person to joined a direct sales company thinking I was going to make a few blog posts and things were just going to explode and I was going to be making all this money selling something that I absolutely 100% love, but that’s not exactly what happened. I didn’t really sell much of anything at all actually and I wasn’t confident in myself enough to even mention this company and it’s products to people I know and thought could benefit (which is basically everyone by the way).

What if I’m bugging them?

What if they don’t want to be my friend anymore because I shared this shampoo with them?

What if I feel like I’m not good enough to sell this to them?

What if they unfollow me?

What if I’m not qualified to sell it even though I’ve had results?

What if people literally just don’t care about my product?

The “what if” list can go on forever, but every single what if on that list was a what if produced from fear. In hindsight it was a pretty freaking stupid list.

Why was I holding myself back? Did I really believe all that stuff? I don’t see all the successful Market Partners living in fear and destructive what ifs.

What if I didn’t buy into all those what ifs? But then I still didn’t really know how to change my way of thinking.

I kept coming back to this idea of working the Monat business, selling these product that I know are truly revolutionary in the hair care industry. I’d kind of explore it a tiny bit, maybe post to my Instagram stories, but I definitely wasn’t taking it serious. Not totally anyway.

In one of these moments where I came back around to it, I decided to actually sit in on one of those zoom calls you hear about in direct sales. What would it hurt? It was one for new Market Partners or Market Partners like me that came in, didn’t do anything, and now want in on this opportunity. This upline talked for just a second about Mel Robbin’s five second rule and something about that intrigued me and I couldn’t let it stop there. In a nutshell the rule is counting down from 5 when negativity or fear keeps us from acting on an instinct that we know is right or this the thing that will push us forward and then when we get to one, we move our bodies in the direction of doing the thing before all that fear finds time to settle in our brains and keep us from doing it.

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I googled it and came across Mel Robbins book called The 5 Second Rule and I decided what the hell, I’m just going to do this. The next day I stopped by my local Half Price Books. They were out of it. The employee offered to get it in for me, but it would take 10 days. I had a super vague idea of what the 5 second rule was and I thought, nope it’ll come and go before 10 days is up, so I drove a little further to Barnes and Noble and picked it up. Even my Amazon Prime 2 day free shipping wasn’t going to be fast enough for me on this one. It was now or never… or a lot later down the road anyway. I had to grab this moment before it was gone.

And to be honest, as much as I want to be at home with my kids, I’m tired of not pulling my weight financially in my family (not that I have to, but I want to), but I’m also really just not made for a traditional job. I know this opportunity can work. I know I can make as much and more than I made when I drove to a traditional job so why not put my head down and get after it.

Since starting and finishing The 5 Second Rule (technically I finished it yesterday), I’ve used the rule to quiet my negativity and push through moments of fear in order to share this thing I love with the people around me. It’s a little early to say if I’m going to be super successful in the business, but the point is that this rule has allowed me to get out of my own way and make progress towards a goal instead of just dreaming about it. I’ve made more sales in the last week than I did in the entire year and half prior. Even if it doesn’t add up to much, I’m pretty freaking proud of that. And you know what? So far only 3 of the people I’ve reached out to have ignored me and it turns out I’m actually okay with that. To me that says more about where they are with things and less about where I am with things. I’ve heard no, gotten some excuses, but more than anything people have been kind and received it well, even if now is not the time. I’m slowly working through the fear, but my confidence is already better than it was a couple weeks ago.

If fear and a lack of self confidence is holding you back from something you want personally or professionally, I’m recommending this book to you. It’s not like all those other personal development books you read. Have you ever noticed most of them are inspiration, but with no clear way to actually get out of your own way? It doesn’t make them bad by any means. I love some of those books and the message they send. The thing about The 5 Second Rule is that Mel gives you an actionable thing to do to change your behavior and that, my friend, is key.

So, if you do want to pick up this book from Amazon, I’d click the Buy on Amazon button over there and add it to your cart. Ready?

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What To Do About That Terrible RV Mattress

If you’re reading this I’m guessing you just spent the night on quite possibly the worst mattress you’ve ever slept on (if you even slept at all). No worries, I’ve got you. Let’s talk about that horrible RV mattress and the best and most affordable way to upgrade it.

It happens to the best of us. We buy our new or new to us camper, we buy all the things to go with it, and then set up our maiden camping trip just to find out ain’t nobody sleeping good on that poor excuse for a mattress that comes with the thing. You just spent all this money and a new mattress is the last thing you have room for in the budget. What do you do? Do you fork out the cash for a new one anyway? It’s a shame to spend all this money on something that’s supposed to bring you joy only to be sleep deprived with an achy back. We fixed this issue for under $100, which by comparison seemed like the perfect alternative to buying a new mattress.

This is NOT a sponsored post. I’m simply sharing what worked for us and helping out my fellow RVers.


What we bought

Lucid 3 Inch Gel Memory Foam Mattress Topper

This particular mattress topper had great reviews everywhere I found it online and was available at many stores for so much less than comparable models. I ended up buying mine from Home Depot because at the time they had the best deal. I like to shop around. I’m going to link it below on several sites so you can find the best deal at the time you’re looking at this. I did see it on more sites (JC Penny, Bed Bath and Beyond, etc.), but those others had a much higher price point and I didn’t see the point of adding them here.

Disclaimer: The Amazon and Home Depot links are affiliate links and if you do purchase through one of those links, thank you! I will receive a super small commission, but that commission keeps me producing quality content for you. That being said, I’m a firm believer and finding the best price most of the time. If it’s not at Home Depot or Amazon, please choose the option that’s best for you.


What else you need to know before purchasing your mattress topper

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I didn’t just purchase ours blind hoping it would work for us. I thought about our sleep needs and the level of firmness we typically prefer. If you like a super plush and soft bed, maybe the 4 inch model would be a better fit for you. If you love it super firm, you may consider the 2 inch model. We chose the 3 inch topper simply because we sunk into the super thin camper mattress directly down to the plywood below. We like it mostly firm, but felt for our needs that the 3 inch might provide a little bit more of what we were looking for. Check out this graphic from Lucid. Maybe it’ll help you decide which model will work best for you.


Hopefully you found this helpful and you can start getting a better night’s sleep on your next trip. This thing really has made a huge difference for us.

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Happy Camping,

Monica

Best Coffee Maker for the Camper

What is the best coffee maker for the RV?

This is a question I see asked by newbies all the time in RV camping Facebook groups. Now I’m still kind of a newbie myself, but I want to share with you what I bought, why I bought it, and a couple other options I see mentioned a lot.


Mainstays Single Serve K-Cup Coffee Maker

We use this Mainstays Single Serve K-Cup Coffee Maker from Walmart.

Why?

  • It’s only $19.99, about half the price of other off brand k-cup coffee makers on Amazon.

  • It has a super small footprint so it doesn’t take up a ton of counter space. We all know RVs are generally lacking in this area.

  • It’s easy to store away when traveling.

  • I’m the only one who drinks coffee so no need to brew a whole pot.

  • It now comes in 4 colors (black, red, mint, and iris)

The Downside of The Mainstays Single Serve K-Cup Coffee Maker

  • You wait in between cups for water to heat. But for that price and considering I’m the only one who drinks coffee in my camper, I can handle that.


Now what if you don’t have electricity?

So far we haven’t been somewhere without it and we have a generator, but I know people camp without electricity all the time and don’t have a generator. Also some just prefer an old school way of doing things especially when they camp and I totally get that, not to mention the folks concerned about the waste of a k-cup. All of this really just depends on your level of coffee snobbery and environmental concern and there isn’t really a right or wrong answer, but here is how you do it without electricity.

Use a Percolator or French Press When Electricity isn’t Available

I’ve found a few percolators on Amazon with 4+ star reviews that won’t break the bank. For these you’ll either need a campfire or a propane stove. At the time I added these to this blog post, they ranged from $17-$36 (all affordable).

And these two French Presses were also super affordable with 4+ star reviews on Amazon. I’ve never used a french press before, but I’ve been curious. Everyone always raves about coffee made with a french press. I’ve read you don’t want your coffee to be too finely ground with these or it’ll end up in your drink so keep that in mind. At the time I added these to this post, both options were about $25.


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I ended up buying this Bodum 12 oz. French Press from Target for the house just because I’ve always wanted to try one and I’m the only person who drinks coffee in my house. I may even start taking it with me in the camper. I cheat and use my Kurig without a K-cup to boil water and then just have it dispense directly into the french press already containing my coffee grounds. You just wait 4 minutes and then press. Coffee is ready. This is cheaper on Amazon so that’s what I’m linking for you, but I was actually able to find this in my local Target store just in case you’re a buy in person kind of person.

Pro Tip: Go for a bolder coffee. I tried a medium boldness which is usually fine for me, but it came out weak. I bought a bolder coffee and I it’s perfect.


And of course there is nothing wrong with a good old coffee pot, if that is the route that makes the most sense for you…

These two are basic and affordable with great reviews.


I know this seems super simple, but for whatever reason, the coffee maker can be a tough decision to make. Hopefully this gets you thinking about your coffee needs and what makes sense for you in your camper and makes this whole owning an RV thing a little less complicated. If you’ve got one you love in the camper, feel free to share it in the comments. Fellow RVers help each other out.

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24 Rainy Day Camping Activities for Kids

Rainy Day Camping Activities for Kids

I know I’ve talked about it before, but I’ve got a knack for planning camping trips on rainy or poor weather weekends. My talent for doing this is incredible actually. Just ask my family. You want to know when it’s going to rain? Just ask me for my camping schedule and you’ve got the answer. We’re headed to the coast in July and I’m already planning for hurricane weather because that would be my luck. You can bet I’ll be keeping a real close eye on the forcast during that time.

So since it’s obviously going to be raining for my next camping trip and the one after that and the one after that, here is the big question. What kind of rainy day activities can we do to keep the kids busy in the camper? I mean, we’ve watched every single movie in our camper at least 5 times and we haven’t even been camping for all that long. There are only so many times you can watch Sing or the Minions Movie over and over again. I’ve seen this question asked over and over again on camping forums so I’ve compiled the ultimate list of rainy day camping activities for your young kids.

The Ultimate List of Rainy Day Camping Activities For Your Kids

Markers and coloring books

Markers and coloring books

  1. Watch Movies - Yes it’s screen time and that’s not what camping is about, but for me camping is family time so if we’re all enjoying a movie together with a little popcorn, then I’m cool with that. Our camper favorites lately seem to be Sing, Minions, and The Lorax.

  2. Play Board Games - Candy Land, Monopoly, Guess Who, Battle Ship, Connect 4, Chutes and Ladders, Sorry, Trouble, Checkers, or any board game you already have hiding in a closet somewhere will do.

  3. Play Card Games - A whole family activiite sure to please. We love Uno and Go Fish. My almost 6 year old daughter would probably play all day. Don’t forget about games like Skip-Bo, Old Maid, War, Apples to Apples, Crazy 8, or Charades for Kids.

  4. Color - We prefer a couple of coloring books and some markers that stay in our camper. Both of my kids love to color. Crayons can melt if they get too hot so I wouldn’t suggest keeping them in the camper if it gets hot in storage.

  5. Paint - I’ve seen suggestions of painting rocks which looks like a ton of fun. Some people have also mentioned leaving them behind for the next set of campers to discover. I love that idea. Seems like a fun way to put a smile on someone’s face. Also some old school water colors and paper are easy to pack and always a fun activity for kids.

  6. Play outside (if it’s safe to do so) - Just make sure you have a couple of kid size ponchos on hand (or swimsuits if it’s warm enough) and pack their rain boots (or crocs) and you’re good to go for a little rainy day outdoor adventure. Of course if there is lightening near by or dangerous wind, don’t do this. Use common sense folks, but have fun.

  7. Play-Doh - cheap and easy to bring along.

  8. Fort Making in the Bunks - If you have bunks that is and plenty of blankets or sleeping bags, pillows or just anything that can be used for a fort. I haven’t met a kid that didn’t enjoy fort making yet.

  9. Learn Origami - Keep a stash of paper around and maybe grab an inexpensive book off Amazon for learning origami.

  10. Make Slime - You can buy a slime kit or just have the ingredients you need on hand. There are endless recipes for slime on the internet. Just google it and choose a recipe that looks interesting or easy or whatever you want it to be.

  11. Bake Cookies - Our favorite ones to make come from the Magnolia Cookbook. Oddly they’re better after they cool off which is unlike any cookie recipe I’ve ever tried. A premade dough works just fine as well, but from scratch will give you more to do and can be a great family activity for a rainy day.

  12. Legos - Bring a tub or just a small set. You’re never too old for legos.

  13. Read - Grab some books that your kids can read on their own or bring along some to read to them. I went to college to be an elementary school teacher so I’m a fan of reading to kids anytime, not just when it’s raining.

  14. Seek and Find Books - Think Where’s Waldo or the I Spy books. Both of my kids love these.

  15. Puzzles - I love that this can also be an individual thing or a family thing. Bring along all kinds of puzzles ranging from 24 pieces all the way to 500 pieces (depending on how rainy it’ll be or on ages and number of participants).

  16. Jenga - Because this one also never gets old.

  17. Tic-tac-toe - This is our go to at restaurants, but why not on a rainy day in the camper too.

  18. Visit Local Indoor Attractions in nearby city- Museums, Children’s Museums, Aquariums, Kid friendly brewery or winery, trampoline parks, bowling, etc. Just google indoor activities for whatever city you are near and get out and explore.

  19. Craft Kits - you can create your own kit or buy one ready to go. This can be as simple as beads and string or that super cool dream catcher kit in my Amazon list for rainy day activities.

  20. Science Experiments - Honestly even I’d have to just google this one. I wouldn’t know where to start, but I’ve seen it mentioned in forums so I thought I’d include it here.

  21. Dominos - I haven’t played dominos in years and would totally have to figure it all out again, but I do remember having fun. Seems like a great game for kids and adults alike.

  22. Paper Doll Books - I’ve never done paper dolls with my daughter, but I’d bet if I pulled this out on a rainy day, she’d be in heaven.

  23. Joke Books - This is for when you’re desperate and everyone is getting on each other’s last nerve. Hopefully a joke or two will get everyone smiling again.

  24. Magnatiles - We don’t have magnatiles, buy I’ve almost invested in them several times. Everyone who has them swears they’ll keep their kids busy creating for hours.


Just after the sun came back out, looking at birds on the water.

Just after the sun came back out, looking at birds on the water.

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A cold day spent inside at Moody Gardens Rain Forest Pyramid while camping in Galveston.

A cold day spent inside at Moody Gardens Rain Forest Pyramid while camping in Galveston.

Do you camp? What are some of your favorite rainy day camping activities? Share them with me in the comments for others to see.

Thanks for reading my post!


-Monica

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Mother's Day Gifts That Don't Totally Suck

Dads / Husbands, this one is for you. You might have one of those wives that actually loves the little heart necklace from Zales or a flower delivery on Mother’s Day, but I’m guessing they’d prefer something that they don’t feel obligated to wear or that just doesn’t die in a few days. I got a Roomba last year. That was literally the best gift ever. We named her Sylvia, she is a real person, and now there is finally someone else in the house who understands what it’s like to clean without appreciation. She gets me. My guess is Tyler was tired of listening to me complain about never getting any help around the house.

So if you were going to go get something for mom from Zales this year, just stop. Don’t do it. She doesn’t want it (probably). Just saying.

He’s some stuff that doesn’t totally suck that you could gift her instead. And yes most of these are affiliate links because if I’m posting it, I may as well make a few dollars off of it.


iRobot Roomba 960 Robot Vacuum

Because I already mentioned it, here is the one I got last year for Mother’s Day. Yes I know it’s expensive. Yes your wife or mom is worth it. Just think, the less time she spends vacuuming the floor, the more time she has to spend time with her family… just kidding. Really it’s just more time she has to clean other stuff or take care of the kids so you don’t have to.


These books by Karen Alpert

but only if your wife has a good sense of humor and doesn’t get offended by the F word. If she’s doing a perfect job parenting your children, she probably won’t get it and you should definitely buy her something different like a heart necklace from Zales that says #1 Mom or something like that.


Amazon Echo Spot

I actually really wanted to buy this for my husband, but he didn’t seem all that interested. Said there was nothing wrong with his current alarm clock which is, by the way, my alarm clock from before we were married and we’ve been married for almost 11 years. I thought he’d love being able to see what the motion at the front door was on his alarm clock because I though guys liked stuff like that, but apparently I was wrong. Anyway, you can even buy a cloud cam for this thing and use it as a baby monitor or put your fan on a smart switch so when you forget to turn it on at night, you don’t have to wait until you have to pee (which is probably only like 30 minutes from right then anyway) before finally giving in and getting up to turn the fan on.


Kindle Paperwhite

Or you could skip out on the hardback books up there and get mom this kindle paperwhite and the kindle versions of the books I mentioned. And these are waterproof now so mom can read it in the bath, at the pool, or on the toilet without fear.

But seriously, I use my paperwhite every single day it’s really a great gift and it saves trees, if you’re into that kind of thing.


Fiddle Fig Tree from Amazon

It’s like giving flowers except they don’t die… maybe. It’s really all up to her on whether or not it lives.


Oster Electric Wine Bottle Opener

And the least you can do is buy a bottle of wine (or 6) to go with it. This one is from Target so go ahead and buy it online. I’m even seeing an option for free 2 day shipping currently or you can pick it up in the store if you waited too long.


Ember Temperature Controlled Mug

Because let’s be real, mom hasn’t finished a hot cup of coffee in the presence of the children since they got here. I don’t actually have one of these, but I’m intrigued and I know people who love them. Grab this one from Best Buy.


Basically, don’t pick dumb stuff that’s the equivalent of her giving you a goofy tie for Father’s Day. Chances are you’d rather have a fishing pole (that’s what my husband is getting this year and it just got delivered to our doorstep a couple hours ago… yes I know it’s barely May… he buys his own gifts), truck stuff, or a drone or something rechargeable. Moms just want coffee, alcohol, a clean house, and maybe some peace and quiet. Happy Gifting!

-Monica

My Current Top 10 Home Decor Items on Amazon

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Did you know I have an Amazon Storefront full of my favorite things? It’s true. I’m kind of Amazon Prime obsessed so I sometimes find it therapeutic to shop and add things to my lists (especially when I love something but I’m not ready to buy it or I don’t really need it, but it’s great). It’s funny because most probably don’t think of Amazon when it comes to home decor that actually doesn’t suck, but turns out they have so much amazing stuff. You could literally dress your whole house up with stuff, cute stuff, just from Amazon. Really it’s dangerous.

So anyway, because it doesn’t do anyone any good to keep it to myself….

My Top 10 Favorite Home Decor Items on Amazon Currently in no particular order… (yes I have a black and white obsession)

Also just so we all know, these are just 10 that I was feeling inspired by today. Obviously there is just a ton of awesomeness out there.

  1. I’ve never been to Hawaii, but I dream of going some day. It’s definitely on my list even though I know it’s something that’s now happening anytime soon. In the meantime I’d like to dream about it with this cute Aloha framed print. We’re getting ready to build a ledge shelf in the hallway across from my office and I can see this there on that shelf with other things.

2. I’ve been looking for a rug for my kitchen. I haven’t found the exact perfect thing, but this rug has me wishing I had a spot for it.

3. Lately after checking out the Nesting with Grace blog and Instagram account, I’ve been wanting to add some of these cute wall sconces to my home and of course with my matte black obsession I’ve been eyeing this one in particular. Maybe I’ll actually add a couple to my cart one day soon.

4. Is it weird that I want my laundry to be in something visually pleasing? This is where I’m going with things lately. I’m craving cute for all the boring stuff around my home. This basket has me wondering if laudry might be more fun, if it were pretty. I also kind of have a basket problem.

5. Um the price on these…. pillows and pillow covers can be expensive and these are super affordable and really just super trendy and cute. Loving these covers for sure.

6. And the basket problem continues. I’d like this one in particular for my daughter’s room. There’s just something about paint dipped baskets that I just love. How cute would this be with a spider plant?

7. And we’re not lamp people. We never have been really but for some reason I’m drawn to them. If I was going to buy one, I feel like this would be it.

8. Hello fun and cute tissue box cover. This is plastic and pretty light weight from what I can tell, but it reminds me of some of the cute house figurines I’ve seen as part of the Hearth and Hand (Magnolia) line at Target and the price is right.

9. I secretly want to have my husband run electrical in the breakfast room so we can hang this light fixture. Ooops. Secret is out. I haven’t actually worked up the nerve to ask him to do this yet, but maybe I will soon-ish.

10. I have a giant basket (surprise, surprise) full of blankets. Most of them were given to me and while I’m grateful, none of them really go with anything we have going on right now in our home. I have an urge to give them all away and start fresh.

-monica